Ep. 103 Do Black Men Have To Be Twice As Polished? - The Unspoken Rules of Power and Presentation

Mar 5, 2026

With a recent tik-tok video about Black Men's appearance at a Ruth Chris Steakhouse going viral, it would be a perfect time to talk about Black Male etiquette. In a world where perception can open doors—or quietly close them—Black men often find themselves navigating an unspoken standard: be excellent, but also be exceptional. Be confident, but not intimidating. Be authentic, but not “too much.”

So the question becomes: Are we required to be twice as polished just to receive half the opportunity? We will discuss this important topic with James B Wingo, author of “The Manners Playbook: Essential Lessons for African-American Boys on Confidence, Self-Awareness and Etiquette”.

You can purchase The Manners Playbook: Essential Lessons for Young African-American Boys on Self-Awareness, Confidence and Etiquette here or email him at [e-mail] for an autographed copy.